Why it is important for women to have more fun + 12 inspiring ways to strengthen and nurture your feminine expression.
When I sat down to write this article I thought to myself, “how can I make it fun to write this article?” I mean I love to write, play with words, share my thoughts, express myself through the written word and research information and the science behind it all. So having fun writing this article shouldn’t be that difficult for me, right? - But there is another side to this and that is the illusion of perfectionism.
When I first started this article I wanted it to be amazing, with lots of value for you (my dear reader) but really I just wanted it to be perfect so no one could put a finger on it. So I started reading other people’s articles on the same topic and got discouraged as they sounded so great and professionally written. I started the game of comparison which usually get you nowhere. And writing this article lost all its fun. Do you relate to any of this so far? If you are a woman I am pretty sure some of it would resonate with you.
So how does this relate to women having more fun and reconnecting to their femininity? - It has everything to do with it!
We are raised to be nice, well behaved girls, to fit in, value other people needs before our own - be perfect. Basically most of us has learnt to forget ourselves, and our ability to recognise our own needs, desires, values and limits. We have disconnected from our body, which results in us not listening to the impulses and signals it sends us. We can end up overhearing very important signals and end up completely depleted, stressed or sick. We have the disease to please most of us, I even heard Oprah expressing having this challenge.
Many women work in male dominated industries. Many, if not all of the creative industries are dominated by men OR the masculine way, which has been socially reinforced and accepted for centuries. With the masculine way I refer to the stereotypical definition: achievements, success measured by status within work and financially, toughness, not to forget muscles, it’s all material and measurable. - but I think it is important to remember, that these characteristics is also a social construct, a narrative, taught to men from they were young boys. Just to have compassion with men and not have a feisty attitude against this situation, because that wouldn’t be the feminine way. Remember feminisme is to establish, and achieve the political, economic, personal and social equality of the sexes. And according to the writer Rebecca Abrams also play, should be on this list, as she believes the social norms leaves very little space for women to play, compared to men.
When it comes so the female power it is another story. I shouldn’t even have to explain it, it should be pretty obvious. We can create a human being inside our body while living life at the same time, and push it out through a very small hole of our body, which magically expands because the body just knows how and when to do that. If that isn’t powerful, I don’t know what is!
But despite this, the stereotype of femininity has for a long time and sometimes still are equaled: weakness, fragility, being too emotional. But times are changing and we are starting to see the power of the feminine. Brene Brown has helped this a lot through her books on vulnerability as equal to bravery, being strong NOT weak! Thank you Brene Brown!
Sure things has changed a lot! But there is still a long way for the masculine and feminine to coexist in a healthy and balanced way that values the intrinsic qualities of the two genders.
If you work in an industry where success and status is valued greatly it can be challenging to stay connected with your body and femininity. Long work hours, often sitting still and focused for a long time, using your capacity from the neck up, being productive, tight deadlines and powerplay that can lead to stress. We basically cut all connection to the amazing powers that lies below the neckline.
All these challenges can create our minds to be filled with worried thoughts, negative beliefs about ourselves, our whole body to tense up, it can affect our decision making so we make decisions based on fear, rather than love. If we aren’t in contact with our bodies daily we simply loose connection with our deeper instinctual knowing, our inner voice and this can cause us to feel stressed, exhausted, drained, depressed, rigid and closed. No woman can use her full potential and be creatively free, feeling like that and for sure wouldn’t be that fun to be around.
When I finally decided to let go of how everyone else wrote their articles, the idea of writing it in the “right” way, and perfectly. I finally got into the flow and had fun with it! I let go and just did it, in my own way.
So now, we want to feel good right?
“When you feel good, you can enjoy your life and be good with others and the planet”
I am here to inspire and guide you how to do just that :)
We as women have a special power, of deep intuition and knowing that we can’t deny when we first begin to get back in touch with it. It’s like opening a secret treasure, and when you see and feel the magic and beauty you just want more.
I remember once when I was teaching a movement class, a woman who had looked very serious during the class, came up to me after class and said: “it was so great to move my hips and be reminded that I am a woman.”
It shows the power of what just one movement class can do - Being reminded you are a woman, wow!
“It is in the way she moves, like powerful waves flowing softly through the street, it’s in her gentle yet mysterious smile that lights up her whole face, its her divine energy that beams with love from the center of her heart, it’s the way she comforts with ease and compassion, it’s in her playful way of being a woman.” - Louise Gade
When women have more fun through being playful and actually play, they enhance their ability to think differently, be curious, efficient, imaginative, let go of perfectionism, be brave, spontaneous, take risk and social skills. This leads to great health benefits
Here are some inspiring ways you can reconnect with your femininity and have more fun:
Buy yourself fresh flowers, yes sounds simple, but how often do you actually do that? and don’t forget to smell them, the female energy is all about sensing. So try to practise it with flowers: look at them, feel them with your fingers, run them over your face, experience the flowers.
Take a foot bath, be creative with it! Essential oils, bobbles, flower petals, with a nice tea and music.
Have more fun! - life really isn’t that serious, it’s just an experience that we choose how to react to. Again be creative what is fun for you? what makes you laugh? what inspires you? try out new things, explore, discover, be curious! Loosen up and enjoy the moment.
Be more in nature and by the sea, here again you can use all your senses!
Do nothing for a whole day, watch the clouds go by
breathing exercises, connecting with your breath daily is key!
move - not running or the gym! but dance, put on music and dance with your hips, booty, pelvic floor - make circular movements, it ignites your feminine energy. - you can find great playlists on my spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/user/gadelou?si=BwxH1pg1QN2-FVY9kMADVg
Be slow, take your time, lean back physically and mentally. Schedule your calendar so you know you have good time for everything. Rushing is not existing from now on!
Practise trust - trusting yourself, the timing of your life, that you live in a loving universe. You can do this by praying to a higher power, to the universe what or who ever you like. Say a mantra like: “I live in a loving universe”
Practise to Release control. Let go, and acknowledge your fear is an illusion anyways and it doesn’t work or make you feel good - you can plan, create, take action and hope but you cannot control a thing, it’s a waste of good time and energy. - The antidote to control is...FUN!
Make sure to create space during the week to do something nice that feels good to you, that lift you up and nourish you, something that has nothing to do with being productive - only feeling good.
Create a daily or at least weekly love ritual with yourself. writing yourself a love poem, letter or just write loving sentences about yourself in your journal, cook lovely food, go for a walk in your favorite area, spend time with your best friend.